Success in the dance world

Let's talk about success in the dance world!📷

Climbing the ladder of success in dance is full of tough choices.

It is a pain for an artist not to be seen, visible, or appreciated.

On the way, opportunities will come that can boost your visibility and allow you to jump high, skipping some steps. And it's very tempting to take this opportunity. We all want to be successful and want it ASAP. Or another situation come that tests us- you name it. We all face choices.

But what if this opportunity hurts others, or this choice comes with the price of treating others poorly? We look at the top dancers and are blinded by their "successful success." But we don't see behind-the-scenes hard work, sacrifices, or the prices they pay for success. We only see the surface. The attitude "do whatever it takes" is not ok. IMHO.

So, in those tempting situations when we need to choose to become successful quicker but the price is to treat someone poorly, ask yourself what true success is for you (not for others): to become popular or to have peace of mind.

Everyone encourages us to choose whatever "FEELS BETTER FOR YOU." But remember that there are short-term and long-term "feeling good."

Short-term: Popularity, money, admiration, validation, etc., make us super happy. It's instant gratification. However, dopamine will drop low soon, and nothing will feel enough. Feeling of having it all being on top where everyone loves you but not feeling happy.

Long-term: peace of mind is priceless (on the other hand, knowing that you hurt someone is unbearable). Think about delayed gratification. Dopamine stable. Reward lasts way longer than short-term instant gratification. It's physiology. Sometimes we need to detoxify those dopamine receptors to make them sensitive again📷 So we can enjoy little things in life, little pleasures we forget to notice when we only think about big pleasures.

Please don't get blinded by the short-term! The long-term result always comes: peace or pain. It's better to stay authentic than popular.

What is success to you, my friend? Title, popularity, money, admiration, or knowing that you genuinely showed love to people along the way? We all made mistakes and poor choices and hurt someone—(unless you are a saint, which I am definitely not). People will hurt us, too. Hurt people hurt others. But if you did the work to heal yourself, you will want to treat others with love and break free from your old patterns. Remember how it feels long-term... Let's learn from the past and make sure we really know what we want success-wise. In your heart, you always know the right answer.

Much love, Maria